People have been following various funeral customs and practices from time immemorial. Even today, there are a plethora of funeral rites and etiquette that cultures across the world follows.

  • Sending a wreath is considered most appropriate and respectful on hearing of the passing of an acquaintance or a family member.
  • It would be a good idea to ask for an appropriate time to visit before dropping by too early or too late.
  • When attending a wake service, dress yourself in sober or dark colour. Avoid red or bright colours. White is fine if it is plain with no colour motifs or patterns.
  • It is customary to give condolence money when attending a wake service. The amount given varies and it should be put into a white envelope and handed to the family member or into a condolence box.
  • The amount given for condolence money ​should always be in odd numbered amount.
  • In return visitors will receive either a candy/red thread/ or even a handkerchief as token of appreciation to attend the funeral. It would be most appropriate to accept rather than to refuse it. The red thread is a respectful gesture from the bereaved family member to ward off the possible ‘bad luck’ that may be brought upon with the attendance of the wake.
  • Guests can light up the joss sticks and/or bow three times/ before the altar of the deceased.
  • Guests can also express their sympathy by bowing and comforting to the family for their loss.
  • Turn off your mobile phone or put in silent mode. Be respectful, and not talk or laugh too loud during the ceremony.
  • Visitors should leave quietly and not say ‘bye’ when you leave the wake.
  • Shortly after attending the wake just before you step in your home, wash your hands and feet with pamelo leaves to remove the bad luck.