Expressing Condolence: How and What to Say In A Condolence Message

Losing someone beloved is a difficult journey, and while it may seem like a small gesture, receiving condolence messages helps the person to know that they are cared for and that they are not alone. 

It is not easy to express your thoughts to someone recently bereaved, but know that making contact with the simplest of words sometimes is more than enough to provide comfort.

How best to express your thoughts?

With social media these days, it may be easy to simply type a few words to show your care. ‘Deepest condolences’ and ‘My thoughts are with you and your family’ are some common ways to let the bereaved know you’re thinking of them. But only do so when the person has publicly used social media to express their feelings. Do also watch out for your tone and choice of words, to not come across as brash and unsympathetic, as there is a thin line to thread while engaging in online communication.

Alternatively, opt for a more traditional way by giving them a call, or sending a personal message, to lend a listening ear while you share your love and concern via words. When attending a wake or funeral, take the chance to sit with them and offer words of thoughts or share a prayer.

A handwritten card, together with a choice of condolence wreath or bouquet, is perhaps the option that extends the most warmth and light.

What to include in a condolence message?

There is no one right way to express your thoughts through a condolence message. Be earnest, and let your words show your care and concern. Condolence flowers are equivalent to an act of remembrance, celebrating the life of the recently departed. The accompanying message can be short and sweet, or a chance to share your memories of good times.

Here are some examples of condolence messages:

  1. Our condolences on the passing of your family member/friend.
  2. Deepest and sincerest condolences. We are thinking of you.
  3. I was so sad to hear of your loss. My condolences.
  4. My heartfelt condolences on your loss. It was a pleasure to know [insert name].
  5. [insert name] will never be forgotten. We will treasure our memories of him/her and offer you our condolences.
  6. The ones we love are never gone; they live within our hearts.
  7. We are sorry beyond words for your loss. Our condolences to you and your loved ones.

It is not uncommon to share phrases or quotes, from literature, pop culture, and religious messages (biblical quotes). It would be good to know if the deceased and the bereaved have any language and/or religious attachments before using these quotes in your condolence message.

Sending condolence flowers with SG Florist

At SG Florist, we take care of everything for you. From offering some of the best funeral flower arrangements, to providing options for your condolence messages , through to ensuring timely delivery of the bouquets and wreaths, our customer’s satisfaction is our top priority. We make difficult times that little easier, and hope to add some warmth to dark days. Learn more about our same day delivery service  and browse our funeral flowers collection here .